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Saturday, October 3, 2015

OUR COMMITMENT AND HOW IT DEEPENS



1.   We let go of our ego’s insistence on being right.
2.   We oppose or disagree without imposing
3.   We still have arguments but they don’t last as long, they involve less replay of the past
4.   We take the content of the argument as information rather than a reason for resentment.
5.   We argue without losing our connection and do not stop loving.
6.   We know to stop the argument when it’s taking us further away from where we want to be, bringing us back to centeredness.

We know we can work through anything.

1.   We know that the conflict is coming from our pain that’s wanting to heal.
2.   We hold with compassion the source of our pain and the pain of the other.
3.   We know that one’s truth is not necessarily truth for the other, my truth is an opinion.
4.   We ride the emotions to “right” action for the WE.
         
Now pain opens in a new way and leads to compassion and change, not blame and shame.


Reference: How to be an adult in relationships.  David Richo

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